Experiencing the death of a loved one is always painful, but there is a special kind of grief associated with the loss of a child. It strikes so powerfully at our hearts reminding us of the truth – the truth we all know but spend much of our lives trying to ignore. Death is an intruder, an enemy, an evil that rips from us the ones we love the most. And when the one that is ripped from us is a child, we are left not only with pain and grief, but with unfulfilled hopes, the broken promise of memories that were never made, and with the sadness of knowing what could have been but never will be. Moreover, the loss of a child may cause us to begin asking really big and overwhelming questions. Is there a God? If there is a God, how could he let something like this happen? Does God care about my baby? Where is my baby now?
Hearing this reminder in the meeting “don’t rank losses” was a balm to my heart and a precious reminder. Ladies, we are all mothers, even if we have never been pregnant. The love and longing and desire for children that God put in our hearts makes us mothers. We are in this together, no judgement, no ranking, supporting one another in the heart break we have each lived. When I ponder all this it brings to my this bible verse: “…weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15). Everyone’s grief is different, comparison does not have a place. As we love and support one another, we will weep with those who weep.