I wish I remembered more of her pregnancy and life, but the trauma of her death has erased a lot of my memories. But I don’t want Hope to only be defined by the tragedy of her loss. I want to talk about who she was and how much I love her.
Posted on October 08, 2018
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One of the good things that has come from the depth of our suffering is that we were led to adoption.
Posted on September 13, 2018
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When we brought Sammy home, our older son Matti asked us, “Can he stay here?” It was such a profound question, one that my own heart had asked God so many times during my pregnancy and during that 10 day period in the NICU.
Posted on August 26, 2018
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I was often worried about how our grief would affect Matthias and how it would change my parenting. I knew that it would have an impact on his life, but I didn’t know if I was going to permanently scar him because of the depth of sorrow he saw in me.
Posted on August 14, 2018
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Last week, I wrote about the top five things NOT to say to someone who is grieving the loss of a child. Here are five categories of things you SHOULD say, as well as five actions to pair with each categor
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My hope is that as you read what not to say, you will be better prepared to help someone in grief by avoiding these common slip-ups.
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When you lose someone you love, your beliefs about the afterlife suddenly become most important...
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When He is the author of your story, He promises to work everything out for your good – even if it takes decades, even if it’s unlike anything you ever imagined, even if it seems impossible. Trust Him with your story.
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“I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.” Jeremiah 31:13
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I desperately wanted another child, but both pregnancy and adoption were failing me.
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I constantly asked myself and God, “Why does that woman get to have so many children, but I can’t even have two?” “Why did you ruin my dreams?” “Why don’t you want me to have a big family?”
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Mother’s Day is an extremely difficult holiday for all bereaved mothers, but for me, it is a double whammy since it will always fall so close to the anniversary of Hope’s death.
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