A Beautiful Remembrance | Baby Memorial & Infant Loss Gifts

I polled loss moms on Instagram and asked them this question: “Tell us what you should NEVER say to a loss mom”.  One of the most common responses was starting any sentence with “at least". Here are some of their responses in no particular order:

You’re dramatic about everything and I’m just not. Sorry I had a healthy pregnancy and you didn’t

Any statement that starts with “at least” …….

Everything happens for a reason, or you can always try again

Ugh. So many things. What really irked me was the dreaded “dead baby face” look where a coworker would see me, not know what to do and turn around. Baby loss seems so unnatural and it’s hard on us all.

Since the beginning of our journey, my husband and I have had a total of eight miscarriages. It’s been a roller coaster the last several years as we have walked the path of recurrent pregnancy loss and healed the hurt from a marriage that was almost broke from addiction. We’ve had friends leave, we’ve watched as support drops off with each consecutive miscarriage, we’ve been told so many “at least” statements, we’ve seen the pity and uncomfortableness in people’s eyes; but you know what? God has also brought some AMAZING people into our lives. After our fourth miscarriage I joined an online community of other women walking the path of infertility. I hate that we are all in this club together, but there is so much love and support to be found. God has also brought many amazing women into my life to minister to me. Through it all, God has been there loving me and helping me with each step that I take. My prayer remains that though I walk this journey, God’s light shines through and that with every step I take I point to His glory and His glory alone.